Modern Dating: It's Not All Bad

The amount of times I see an article saying how horrible dating is now days is almost comical at this point. Maybe I've just adjusted to being in this era but dating has never been better.

Sure, if you want to go out and find the first guy/girl you meet and settle down with them and start a family then yeah, dating sucks. If you want a long lasting relationship with the true person of your dreams though, it’s never been a better time. It just takes patience.

I have truly cared for a handful of guys I never would have found without the internet bringing us together and even found love once. The only reason that fell apart was because he was in the closet, but let’s not go down that road.

We want everything so fast today, because everything else is at our fingertips at all times. I’m guilty of this too! I feel like it’s taken me a long time to appreciate just how lucky we are to have these modern conveniences. Do you have to have a tough skin? You bet your ass you do. Does it suck sometimes? Sure does. But really, was hanging out by your landline, waiting for a call any better? I’m gonna go with no. Dating is dating.

 

I like that I’ve had the opportunity to date and meet so many different people. It’s made me realize the things I want and the things I don’t want. Not everything works out, welcome to real life. Glamorous, ain’t it?

Sometimes, it does really suck. I recently went to see someone who ended up being a total douche when I found out he double booked a date right after ours. That’s not 2017’s fault though, that’s on the individual who thinks that’s a chill way to do things. It also makes your search easier, cross that one off the list. You are only going to find 1 person (ideally) to spend the rest of your life with, so statistically speaking, it’s gonna be a rough road.

You are going to go through more people today. We all have options. We can go look at an app and have 10 matches or pings in an hour, so you can really see the different types of people in this world. By the time I finally commit to a husband, I will have really explored who I am and what I want. I’ll be ready to say: “Hey, forever is a long time but let’s do this thing because I’ve seen what I need to see, and now all I want to see is you.”

If you’re already ready for that, then I’m sure you are one of those people that hate on dating in 2017 and I do feel for you. Enjoy it though, because relationships can be hard. The more I see all my friends get into relationships the more I’m happy that the only person I have to worry about supporting is Lulubelle.

Just enjoy it. Go on dates. Live freely. Travel. Focus on your career. There is so much more in this world than who you are going to end up with. When your person comes along, you will know and it will be just as magical as you’ve always hoped for if you do it right.

P.S. Growing up is pretty cool. If you follow my blog, you'll see I've made a ton of progress with my thoughts on relationships.