Modern Dating: It's Not All Bad

The amount of times I see an article saying how horrible dating is now days is almost comical at this point. Maybe I've just adjusted to being in this era but dating has never been better.

Sure, if you want to go out and find the first guy/girl you meet and settle down with them and start a family then yeah, dating sucks. If you want a long lasting relationship with the true person of your dreams though, it’s never been a better time. It just takes patience.

I have truly cared for a handful of guys I never would have found without the internet bringing us together and even found love once. The only reason that fell apart was because he was in the closet, but let’s not go down that road.

We want everything so fast today, because everything else is at our fingertips at all times. I’m guilty of this too! I feel like it’s taken me a long time to appreciate just how lucky we are to have these modern conveniences. Do you have to have a tough skin? You bet your ass you do. Does it suck sometimes? Sure does. But really, was hanging out by your landline, waiting for a call any better? I’m gonna go with no. Dating is dating.

 

I like that I’ve had the opportunity to date and meet so many different people. It’s made me realize the things I want and the things I don’t want. Not everything works out, welcome to real life. Glamorous, ain’t it?

Sometimes, it does really suck. I recently went to see someone who ended up being a total douche when I found out he double booked a date right after ours. That’s not 2017’s fault though, that’s on the individual who thinks that’s a chill way to do things. It also makes your search easier, cross that one off the list. You are only going to find 1 person (ideally) to spend the rest of your life with, so statistically speaking, it’s gonna be a rough road.

You are going to go through more people today. We all have options. We can go look at an app and have 10 matches or pings in an hour, so you can really see the different types of people in this world. By the time I finally commit to a husband, I will have really explored who I am and what I want. I’ll be ready to say: “Hey, forever is a long time but let’s do this thing because I’ve seen what I need to see, and now all I want to see is you.”

If you’re already ready for that, then I’m sure you are one of those people that hate on dating in 2017 and I do feel for you. Enjoy it though, because relationships can be hard. The more I see all my friends get into relationships the more I’m happy that the only person I have to worry about supporting is Lulubelle.

Just enjoy it. Go on dates. Live freely. Travel. Focus on your career. There is so much more in this world than who you are going to end up with. When your person comes along, you will know and it will be just as magical as you’ve always hoped for if you do it right.

P.S. Growing up is pretty cool. If you follow my blog, you'll see I've made a ton of progress with my thoughts on relationships.

Moving On & Out

After being trapped in the moving process for the better part of two months, the last thing I wanted to do was go back to my apartment and clean the damn thing. I thought it could be done in one night, but after not eating dinner I’d had it and decided to go back the next day seeing as how it was almost 10 at night.

 

Lo and behold, duty called and I had to work an extra hour and a half that evening, getting me back to the apartment later. When would this damn apartment stop being a thorn in my side? So I’m cranky and I'm scrubbing behind toilets, filling holes in the wall, wiping down walls and doors and then suddenly I’m done.

My car is loaded up with the last of the cleaning supplies and the only thing that sits in the house is the access key to the on-site gym. Then nostalgia hits. I’ve been hating this apartment for so long now. Between finding a new place, moving out, cleaning it up and our *bad word* of a downstairs neighbor pissing us off- like for real guys, she was insane and most likely on drugs- I had forgotten the good times.

This is the apartment I started my career at KOBI in.

This is the apartment Lulubelle came home to.

This is the apartment Sam and I moved into when we didn’t have any friends down here.

I learned how to keep a commitment when I was working two jobs and waking up at 3 AM to travel to Myrtle Point, when I really didn’t want to.

I learned that you have to earn your spot in a company in this place.

I learned how to communicate effectively with your best friend when you get in an argument here.

I hosted my first dinner party here.

I dated someone with the same first and last name as me in this house- check that off the bucket list!

This is the first place I called home in Southern Oregon.

I cried here, I laughed here and I lived here. I wouldn’t want to go back but I do appreciate the time I spent here and the memories that were created. I’m moving on to bigger and better things. I love the new house, I love my job and I love the Rogue Valley.

This is definitely one of the “ups” they talk about in life and I’m riding this wave as long as I can.